Relationships

In the last post we talked about way of being and had you choose what you are; unique, special or important. If you missed out on this, you can scroll down to the earlier post. Hopefully, you have decided and are ready to move on to the next value; that of relationships.

The many differences among people and their relationships is one of the strongest bonds existing in the cosmic energy field. The power of association with other people as well as with other beings is a living bond mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Some relationships are stronger than others but all relationships, no matter what their strengths, create awareness toward others as well as ourselves.

When people come together singly or in groups there is always an energy flow. This is the power of association. Some people may harmonize like two magnets coming together, others may be repulsed while some may have no reaction at all.

One type of relationship you might highly value is to be left alone and allowed to do your own thing. You value independence but still like being with your mate or someone special. In this type of relationship you don't like  to be smothered with attention or affection all of the time. We can call this particular kind of relationship acceptance. In other words, you value your space.

When walking side by side with your loved one, you are usually not holding hands and one person may even be walking in front of the other. Sometimes you might even like to be left alone to do what you like by yourself. Other times you like to be with that someone special and share times together.

Another type of relationship involves being with other people. Here you love the idea of belonging to something like a club, a church, some kind of gathering, etc. The thought of going to something like a family reunion brings a smile to your face. You like to talk to other people about their travels, work, family, hobbies, etc. and you like to tell them about yourself as well. Being part of something means a great deal to you. When walking side by side with your loved one you are usually holding hands. A feeling of close connection exists between you and that person. 

The third type of relationship is intimacy. This is a relationship where you love to share deep feelings with your significant other whether it's your spouse, lover, friend, relative or whomever. You like talking to that person about what might be bothering you, how your day went, what you want to do with your life and all kinds of intimate details that you probably would not share with anyone else. You also like to hear the same things from them. You like knowing that you can share your feelings without any kind of repercussion from them or anyone else because what you talk about never leaves the two of you. When walking side by side with your confidant you usually have your arms around each other. There is no separation when you are in the moment of "we." There is a feeling of tight connection between you and that person. 

So, what kind of relationship do you value the most; acceptance, belonging or intimacy?  You may know right off which it is but if you don't, take your time and think about it. 

In the next post we will discuss the third and last major value, that of doing - how you like to do things. Like the last two major values there are three personal values which describe a person's approach to where and how they direct their energies in getting things done. You will probably be able to figure this one out quite easily.