Figuring out who you are

In figuring out who you really are, way down deep inside, you have to be truly honest with yourself while going through the following assessment. 

First of all, you will take a look at your way of being. This is an inherited characteristic that goes back many thousands of years. It is what you value being as a person in your day-to-day living. You cannot change your way of being but you can recognize it and understand it if you are willing to take an honest look at yourself.

Answer this question; who and what do you consider yourself to be: unique, special or important? These are the three different ways of being. Let's take a look at each one of these ways of being.

Unique means that you consider yourself to be one of a kind, with nobody in the world like you. You value being different and you look at yourself as being in a class all by yourself. You like being unique because you can be as carefree as you want, be whatever you want and to heck with what anybody else thinks. You may dress or wear your hair like no one else and that's okay because that is who you are. You may also drive a unique automobile or live in a unique house and that is okay too because these things make you feel good. 

If you don't see yourself as being unique then you might see yourself as special. As a special person, others make you feel like you really matter. If it weren't for the admiration that someone or some people have for you, you might feel worthless You may consider yourself a jewel - a person of high value and great worth because of what others say and think about you. As a special person you are indeed a diamond in the rough. 

Important means that all you need is to feel good about yourself. You take pride in accomplishing things, getting awards, trophies, plaques and so on that make you stand out or feel good about yourself. When you do something you do it for the satisfaction of pleasing yourself and not necessarily to please someone else. The fact that you can run faster or jump higher than someone else is all you need to feel good. You don't need to have others tell you that you are special or unique.

Can you see which one of the three ways of being you are?  If you can't, then take some time to contemplate the answer by observing yourself over the next few days. You might think that you are two or even all three of the ways, which is sometimes the case for some people. But, remember, only one is more dominant than the other two, so it might take some time to decide which one you are.

Which do you value the most; being unique, special or important?

In the next blog we will take a look at how you value relationships.